"You're growing like a weed."

2021.10.26 01:43 Texandria "You're growing like a weed."

A few months ago in a hello post I mentioned what an issue the yard was growing up. Short version: Mom let our family home become the eyesore of the neighborhood and when the neighbors complained to the HOA she played politics instead of fixing the yard. This culminated with her attempt to seduce the HOA president (right in front of me--I was about nine years old).
One of the after effects of that childhood is I've become an avid gardener. Another is every autumn seasonal affective disorder sets in. Spring and summer things look great; by October I struggle to keep up with weeding.
Spent an hour catching up with the weeds today. Most of the work is on one side of the property where a neighbor weeds about once every three months: their weeds always drop seeds on our side and it's been a wet October. A few memories came back while doing this chore.
Maybe some of you have noticed how abusive people tend to repeat some quirky saying they think amusing, to the annoyance of the people around them. Mother spent years nicknaming me Gloopy. She had been an English major who worked in publishing so it's probably no coincidence that the English meaning of the adjective "gloopy" is (of a thick wet substance) looking, tasting or feeling unpleasant. Although I didn't know what gray rock technique was I basically gray rocked her over that.
Another thing she liked to say at me was, "You're growing like a weed." This I let go for a long time too, until one day I answered that I didn't particularly like being compared to a weed. It was my chore to take care of the weeding, which was the only gardening task that got done on a regular basis. "Oh no it doesn't mean that sense," she responded. "I'm commenting on how fast you're growing."
Bamboo grows fast too. If that's the point then why not compare me to bamboo?
She fell silent at first. Then a week or two later she was comparing me to weeds again.
I didn't take a word of it seriously. Although child psychologists say children usually internalize these messages, I noticed at a young age that Mother wasn't rational. She seemed like she counted on nobody paying attention for long enough to notice how inconsistent she was. So I spent a lot of time observing her and taking notes.
At about age eleven I'd had enough of that. Dad had custody by then (hooray!) but the divorce agreement required me to spend summers with Mom (boo). Not having to put up with her most of the year made me bold enough to speak my mind more. When she repeated that tired old "You're growing like a weed," I shot back Yeah, unloved and neglected. She started launching into her usual gaslighting and deflection but I cut her off with, "Dad doesn't compare me to weeds. I made the right choice about custody. And your yard is an embarrassment."
Usually Mother would scream like a banshee when I defied her. Yet once in a while I'd get her so off balance that she would recalibrate and fall silent. The divorce settlement wasn't finalized yet and she had been trying every trick she could think of to pressure me into changing my mind about custody. In my opinion then that was because she wanted an unpaid servant to do most of the housework (I was washing all the dishes, scrubbing the kitchen sink, cleaning the bathrooms, watering the houseplants, running the vacuum cleaner, dusting, taking out the trash and the compost, and weeding the yard--all of which she insisted was "point zero zero one percent of the work around here"). She was also misappropriating the child support payments. I had spied on her financials.
Maybe that retort about the custody was what changed her mind. She never compared me to a weed again.
Being only age eleven, I didn't have the wisdom to leave it at that. When her parents came to visit they parked while I was busy in the yard. These were decent people, but old fashioned. When they walked up and asked what I was doing I answered, "Weeding. Because Mom is too lazy to do it herself."
This earned an earful from both of them. "Your mother works so hard. You mustn't speak that way about her." They were old Midwesterners and that was how they talked.
I stood up, looked them both in the eye, and asked When I grow up is this how you want me to keep a yard? They couldn't bring themselves to say either yes or no. So I picked up my bucket of weeds, emptied it onto the compost, and went to wash my hands.
Years later I was on a chat with a friend from Australia. We were showing each other landmarks from our lives on Google Earth. On a lark I looked up Mom's house. She still lives there. The friend's opinion was, "The neighborhood is nice but that house is a dump."
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Thanks in advance! Attached a photo of the big man :)
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